Boundaries

One of my coaches said this to me when I was talking through some issues I was having with people in my life who I love dearly.

It kind of blew my mind. Not because it was something so radically new - but because it’s just so profound in its simplicity. And it hit me at just the right time.

If you’re like me, you want to be all things for all the people you love. 

Maybe you’re used to dropping everything in your own life to go and meet someone else’s needs (umm, hello to being a woman!)

Or maybe you hold yourself back from saying or doing the things that are most true for you because you’re scared of how other people will feel.

Maybe all your life you’ve been taught that loving someone means giving them exactly what they want and meeting their needs at all times.

But here’s the truth - love is not dependent on how you sacrifice yourself for someone else. Love is a feeling that YOU get to feel for another person and for yourself. 

Often when we’re constantly sacrificing our needs and desires for someone else’s, it brings up feelings of resentment, which brings us further away from love.

When we can learn how to set appropriate boundaries, to make sure our own needs aren’t being ignored or violated, it makes loving others so much easier and accessible- and we’re able to give to them from a loving and authentic place.

Boundaries are not a wall keeping others out. They’re how we protect ourselves so that we can let love in.

If you could use some help setting and keeping healthy boundaries in your life.. I can help you! Book a discovery call with me today to find out how.

I’m a life and impact coach for artists, music industry professionals, and all mission-driven peeps helping you let love in and make your authentic impact.